The Importance of Mom Staying in the Pictures!

A couple of weeks ago my good friend Tanya sent me the Huffington Post article  entitled "The Mom Stays in the Picture" by Allison Tate.  In the article, Allison talks about how so many of us mom's avoid being in photos with our children because we look fat/tired/messy/old, etc., etc.. "I avoid photographic evidence of my existence these days." Says Allison.   "To be honest, I avoid even mirrors.  When I see myself in pictures, it makes me wince." Oh how I relate to this!  I gained about 90lbs while pregnant with my twins, and honestly, I haven't been the same since.  I avoid cameras!  And have, ever since my boys were born.  Which is so sad and so hypocritical given what I do for a living.  Ugh.

Allison goes on to talk about why it's so important for us moms to get in pictures, if not for us, for our children. "I'm everywhere in their young lives, and yet I have very few pictures of me with them. Someday I won't be here -- and I don't know if that someday is tomorrow or thirty or forty or fifty years from now -- but I want them to have pictures of me. I want them to see the way I looked at them, see how much I loved them. I am not perfect to look at and I am not perfect to love, but I am perfectly their mother."

Since reading this article, I have shared it with both friends and clients (and now you)!  I encourage you all to read it!   It's made me think about so much.  Why  do we spend all this time photographing our families?  Is it for us?  Yes, for sure!  Now it is.  But it's also for them.  Our children.  Our future grandchildren.  We're telling a story every time we click the shutter. And though I've always been mindful of this, I making more of an effort to share it with my clients.

It's also changed the way I think about myself in my sons lives.  When they see a picture of me, I know that they just see their mommy.  Someone they love and who loves them.  They are not looking at the rolls on my tummy, or the wrinkles around my eyes; something I'm going to try my best to remember next time someone points a camera at me.

I'd like to end by thanking my friend, the lovely and talented Della Chen for taking this beautiful photo of me and my boys.  I have few photos of myself with my kids, and to have one this lovely means the world to me!

I'm also sharing a beautiful photo of Cat and her super adorable daughter Lulu.  And I just have to share that when I asked Cat if I could use this image she said "sure, but I look terrible in it"....  I guess we all do it.


-Sandra Coan